Jerry. That’s going to my probably bf’s name. I shouldn’t jump the gun. I’m really good at that. But he’s hung out with me the last two evenings and I’ve been such a good girl. I haven’t put out. He hasn’t asked for me to either. The change is refreshing.
Here’s some of what I know about Jerry: he grew up in a conservative Christian home that encountered some rough times. In his late teens/early 20s he discovered life outside of what I like to call “The Bubble”.
The Bubble – the atmosphere created by Christians/religious individuals (I’m sure The Bubble exists in other faith-based facets) which is characterized by:
-the degrading of anything secular
-the fear of judgment from leaders (i.e. pastors/ministers, etc., parents, deacons, teachers, etc.) in regards to behavior, viewpoints/opinions that differ from said leaders’ “correct” way of behavior, viewpoints/opinions
-the actual judgment from leaders (i.e. pastors/ministers, etc., parents, deacons, teachers, etc.) in regards to behavior, viewpoints/opinions that differ from said leaders’ “correct” way of behavior, viewpoints/opinions
-the idea that everyone must be humble all of the time
-the idea that anything said must be Biblical
-the idea that people who are not “true Christians” are “bad people” (there’s a whole list of people who are not “true Christians” under The Bubble)
Anyway, do you understand what I mean about The Bubble? Jerry and I both grew up inside The Bubble, respectively. So, he discovered life outside of said The Bubble in his late teens/early 20s. He dabbled in things like secular music (*gasp* You mean he listened to things like Queen and The Eagles and Pink Floyd?!?! Oh. My. Gosh!!), smoking/drinking (*gasp* He’s putting things into his body that defile God’s temple?!), drugs (eh, shit happens), sex (………), etc. I have no judgment for this man’s life choices.
However, I am apprehensive how he’ll view some of my life choices. Namely the one where I live with my ex-fiance… That is going to be an awkward conversation, but a necessary one. In fact, that’s the only thing I’m worried about sharing with Jerry. Maybe, just maybe he’ll understand the reasons…
Consequence #37 of living in The Bubble: continual worry that others will judge harshly and that said judgment will result in dismissal of relationship (familial, friendship, romantic, or otherwise).